Archive for the ‘Zen’ Category

Mediumship and quality of content

Saturday, January 31st, 2009

In my previous post about the goodness of the medium, I said that the quality of the content (of messages or readings) was an interrelationship of many things.  Without inventing a whole new branch of metaphysics, let’s ask Phaedrus’ perennial question, “What is quality?”

With mediumship, things are rarely black and white, so it’s better to put them on a continuum, with black at one end and white on the other.  Here are a few important continuua to think about when it comes to quality of content, and to some extent, quality of mediumship.

Positive to negative
Positive content is always good, but negative content is not always bad.  For example, you can get a real ass-kicking in a reading or message.  This is true, and I’ll vouch for it, because it’s happened to me.  My life was botched up, and the spirits gave me the kick in the ass that I needed to get me going in the right direction.  And it is not an open license for a message or reading to mean, disparaging, condescending, or contemptuous.  Basically, a good-old-fashioned kick in the ass is still good, as unpleasant as it may be to get it when you need one.

Wisdom to gossip
Content that provides wisdom and guides you in your life is good stuff.  Gossip is exactly what it is, gossip.  It’s junk.  Spirits don’t have time to gossip.  Neither should you.  You shouldn’t be looking for gossip in the first place, let alone from the spirits.  Wisdom is on one end of the continuum, and gossip on the other.  Things that fall closer to the wisdom end are better than the ones that don’t.

Evidence to fakery
An evidential message or reading is one in which there’s clear evidence of the continuity of life, that is, you know who the spirit is that’s communicating from the other side.  Not all messages are highly evidential, nor do they have to be.  But generally speaking, the closer it falls to the evidence side of the contiuum, the better it is.

The source, spirits to the medium
Messages from the spirits are what seekers want, most of the time.  It’s better than a message that comes from the medium personally, which is sometimes called a head message.  My experience is that head messages usually aren’t very good, but I allow the possibility that the content of one could be the same thing the spirits would have said anyway.  Determining a head message from a spirit message is whole discussion in and of itself, and is anything but black and white.

Ethical to unethical
This continuum is more black and white than most, but still has some gray area.  Telling a seeker that they have demons or devils.  Holding back content as a mean of demanding more money for a message or reading.  Manipulating the content for secondary gains, such as sex with the seeker.  Mean, disparaging, condescending, or contemptuous content.

Form, good to poor
This is more about how the content is delivered than the content itself.  But it’s related, because the delivery affects the perception by the seeker.  For example, many of the things that cynics pick on mediums about is simply poor form.  A quality message or reading should not be delivered in a way that makes people think you’re doing cold readings and the like.

My personal pet peeve is when a medium doesn’t know where the message is supposed to go, starts polling the audience to see who responds, finds the right one, and then goes from there.  Even if the message eventually lands in the right place and has good content, it’s very poor form.  It also gives cynics the soap box they need to stand on.  If I had my way, I’d outlaw it.  If the spirits can’t find the right person to deliver the message to and communicate it clearly to the medium, then the message shouldn’t be given.  Period.  You can bet I won’t stand for it with my guides.  I’d rather shut my mouth instead.  No message is better than one with poor form.

The medium as a person, good to bad
A good person is more credible than a bad one.  Even if the message is one hundred percent true (“the sun will rise in the morning”), I’d rather hear it from a good person as opposed to a bad one.  This continuum can also affect the quality of the content, through the Law of Attraction, i.e. bad spirits can provide bad messages.

The medium as a spirit communicator, good to bad
This is the capability of the medium to clearly receive and clearly convey content from the spirits.  While the idea of mediumship is as simple as handing a message from one person to another, who then hands it to the recipient, the reality is more multifaceted.  There are various things that impact the message as it goes from the spirits to the seeker.  And just like it is with our languages, things can get lost in the translation as well.

Responsibility and how it’s really NOT “all about you”

Saturday, April 12th, 2008

Spiritualism is all about personal responsibility. Speaking of personal responsibility, I know of a very elderly couple who are failing in their day-to-day living due to the issues that normally come along with aging, with medical issues piled on top of it. They stubbornly refuse to engage in assisted living and similar services when they clearly need it. They say they can and/or will drive, which is very dangerous for everyone else on the road, let alone themselves. I’d really like to wring both of their necks. And I mean REALLY.

I suppose they think they’re being responsible. Responsible for themselves, and that’s all that counts, because “it’s all about me”. Hardly. I would call it control, not responsibility. Control says “I’m going to do this because I want to, and damn the torpedoes”. Responsibility says “If I drive, I could kill several people, because my reactions aren’t up to par any more”. Responsibility says “I truly can’t do this, my refusal is hurting everyone around me who cares, and ultimately, I really do need help”. In order to have this level of responsibility, you need to have a certain awareness, which they clearly don’t have.

The world is an OPEN system. Everything affects everything else. Everything has subtle (and sometimes not-so-subtle) interrelationships with everything else. We don’t realize how much our own situations, our own “life stuff” affects everyone else around us. Maybe it’s because we’re too damn busy dealing with it. Maybe it’s because we shut the door to the larger world with our “it’s all about me” thinking. How narrow and SELF-ish we are.

The Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh (now called Osho)in his book “The Search: Talks on the 10 Bulls of Zen”, says it all, very concisely — “Wake up! Be aware! Be responsible!”

How I would like these people to do exactly that … wake up, be aware, and be responsible, DAMN IT!

Things that make you go “How wonderful…”

Thursday, April 3rd, 2008

I was on my way back from Spokane, Washington, and on the flight to Chicago Midway I happened to sit next to a lady who was reading Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance by Robert Pirsig. After a nice conversation with her about the book and our interests in it, I came away with a fresh realization of how much the book changed my life, not only philosophically, but in my career as well. Had I not read it in college, I would have never got into the computer industry, as I was anti-technology back in the day, which was before the Internet (and Windows!) existed. Computers back then were still very expensive and very underpowered. Today, anyone who knows me would start laughing incredulously if I said I was anti-technology at one point, but believe it or not, it’s true.

Food for thought — what’s the likelihood that I wind up sitting next to someone on an airplane who’s reading a book that I’ve read 5 times, sent me on an 18-month deep-dive into Zen Buddhism on a quest for enlightenment, and profoundly affected my thinking on a both a philosophical and technical level??

On the connecting flight back to Buffalo, I sat next to a lovely couple who were in their late 20’s or early 30’s and are engaged. We talked about a number of things about travel including earplugs for long flights. At one point I was quiet and she asked if I was all right. I noticed how the genuine caring in her voice was almost startling, and it made me aware that I sometimes do the same thing to people because I genuinely care about people too.

More food for thought — how often do you get feedback that teaches you something about yourself, and perhaps more importantly, how people might perceive you?

Two lessons in one day is a good day indeed. I think the spirit folks can arrange these “incidental” happenings, and teach us certain subtle lessons even though they appear to be relatively mundane events. I’m not a person who is overly-eager to attribute things to the spirit folks, and I don’t get blown away every time they do something. Even so, I would consider these events as being spirit-orchestrated. It’s nice to know that they have a hand in things.